I am trained and experienced in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the most effective couples theory in the world. Using an integration of holistic studies - my focus is supporting each person with getting clarity on their personal blockages and how it influences the patterns with their partner.
So many times couples come to counseling to "save" their relationship. By this time, the Wall of Resentment may be high. There is a remedy to breaking down that Wall: Communication, Compassion, and Consistency. By taking the time to truly share and understand each person's thoughts and feelings - you take the steps towards all three. And when you have all three - those bricks in that Wall of Resentment come tumbling down.
Listening and Sharing.
“When we listen, we hear someone into existence.” ~ Laurie Buchanan, PhD
If you are going to spend the majority of your time and life together, why not thrive? ~ Aimee
Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
~ Lao Tzu
Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time. ~ Maya Angelou
Love is like the wind, you can't see it but you can feel it.
~ Nicholas Sparks, A Walk to Remember
So, I love you because the entire universe conspired to help me find you. ~ Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
After 20 years of practice, I have this clarity:
Couples do not break up because they don't love each other, it's because the Wall of Resentment is so high, they can no longer see the love. There ARE solutions in breaking down those walls and finding the love again, regardless of how high the wall is.
Congratulations! If you having come to this section, it means that you are embarking on one of the most amazing, courageous, and connected experiences of life: marriage.
Along with education on some of the key successes of marriage (including communication and conflict resolution), I will support you with gaining clarity on your mutual vision of a shared life.